Andy Stanley; This Guy Knows What's Up

So last night I started this series by Andy Stanley on "The New Rules for Love, Sex and Dating". I can honestly tell you I will be listening to the next one tonight. Andy offers common sense knowledge that WE SHOULD KNOW. But guess what? We don't. Andy places a focus not upon looking and searching for the right person but focusing on being the right person yourself. He uses the phrase "Be the kind of person who you are looking for is looking for". He describes the story of a young girl who just got so wrapped up in dating that it became her life, she moved from guy to guy and just got so lost in it. But one night she met this great guy, he was a christian, he knew what he wanted in life, total top guy. She went home and told her Mom all about it. After listening long and hard at her daughters excitement over this guy, the Mom turned to her daughter and said "honey, you know he wouldn't be interested in a girl like you", the girl fell to the floor in tears, the Mom was right. You see we get so caught up in finding the perfect person, we think that when we find them everything will suddenly start to work out in our lives, everything will fall into place. But this is a myth which has disastrous effects later on.

You see, these are things we need to work on now. We need to be bettering ourselves so when that awesome person comes along we are ready. But don't just give your heart away.You deserve the best of love, any guy or girl can tell you they love you but seldom mean it. You see we are blessed enough tot have a checklist and it comes in the form of 1 Corinthians 13, when that significant other tells you that they love you and it pulls on your heart strings, look up that passage, does it meet those criteria? Andy suggested that we should learn all these things, what real love is, not only can we work to become these things but we can also learn these and protect our hearts. Never fall for that person unless their love for you ticks that checklist. We are constantly told to guard our hearts but seldom are we taught how to do that, its something I have wondered for a while, but if we can learn this, what love is and the definition of it from 1 Corinthians 13 then this can help us to do that. You CAN find this love. And you DESERVE this love. So never ever settle for anything less.

Honestly, Check out this series, its really changing and molding my approach and thoughts towards dating
http://www.northpoint.org/messages/the-new-rules-for-love-sex-and-dating