"What Makes You Beautiful"

So we have all heard it, Once Direction hit the scene with "What Makes You Beautiful", this song hit the music charts like none other. Actually, I would say it is just as successful as "Just the Way You Are" by Bruno Mars. These songs are blasted my girls (and some guys) in rooms, showers, cars, parties, you name it and if there is a crowd of girls there, they are probably playing these songs.

These two songs have pretty similar themes. They value girls. Girls far better prefer to be called "beautiful" than thy do "hot". These songs make girls feel great about themselves (and put Bruno Mars and One Direction in a pretttty good spot with the ladies) but when I'm getting at here is that it makes a girls day when she is complimented for being just who she is. Self-esteem is something which effects every girl and there are very few, if not any, who can say they are totally happy with who they are. As Christian girls we are constantly told to look after our male brothers by dressing modestly and making sure thy develop in their Christian walk. But fellas, your major pitfall may be lust but most girls' weaknesses is their self-confidence and how they view themselves. Help out your Christian sisters and stop talking about how "hot" other girls are (were constantly comparing ourselves to the celebrities, the pretty girls, the skinny girls, the smart girls). If a girl looks good, tell her but with respect and with words which glorify God.

How you see a girl and how that girl sees herself is totally different. We can all think of girls who do crazy things to get attention but the thing is its because they don't think they can get that without having to do something crazy. They don't think enough of themselves that they should be able to attract the right guy in the right time and even if they get him, they'll worry a lot of the time that he'll go with someone else. This is the girls pitfall, their "stumbling block". But we have to assist our sisters in Christ, we have to do everything in our means to build them up, help them see they are worth so so much and deserve the best in their lives. We see girls stuck in abusive relationships, yet they think they wouldn't be able to do any better. And as crazy as this sounds, its songs like "what makes you beautiful" and "just the way you are" which brings so much joy to womens hearts. But its sad that this is where girls should find this sense of empowerment. I highly doubt that One Direction or Bruno Mars knows us ladies that well. Tell the ladies in your life how much they mean to you, how beautiful they are and how they should never ever settle for less than they deserve. This is something which is increasingly being pressed on my heart. I'm so scared that I see a whole generation of women who feel they need a man in order to feel better about themselves, but often this motive gets them the wrong guy completely or they find themselves in a terrible position because they are consistently in the pursuit of finding a guy. Encourage the ladies in your life to wait patiently for the prince they have been dreaming of their whole lives, tell them that he is out there but they just need to be patient and to wait.

When I talk to people who are stressed out because they aren't in a relationship I often tell them that the right person is out there but God isn't done with them yet and they aren't ready to meet yet. If you haven't found that person its because God is still molding you into the person He wants you to be, and He is still molding the person that He has set aside for you, truth is if you met them now it probably wouldn't work but when you are both ready, it will, and the wait will be totally worth it.